Next time you are having a strong reaction to a person or situation, chances are you may also be reacting to something from the past. Oftentimes, if you take a moment to think about the feelings you are having, you will notice that they take you back to an earlier time in your life when someone or something made you feel that way. In fact, you may have been replaying a scenario over and over again with different characters and settings, searching for resolution. Next time you are feeling hurt, rejected, or treated unfairly, try to recall the first time you felt that way. If you can’t think of anything right away, then let the thought go, with an open mind to allowing it to come to your consciousness when the time is right and you are more relaxed.
For now, all you need to do is raise your awareness and be open to the idea that things are not always as they seem on the surface. This awareness will take practice. Once you have developed an awareness of these moments, then you will be able to examine your feelings on a deeper level. Approach this exercise with a loving attitude, remembering that you are doing the best you can, and so is everyone else you know.