“Suffering is not enough. Life is both dreadful and wonderful…How can I smile when I am filled with so much sorrow? It is natural–you need to smile to your sorrow because you are more than your sorrow.”
During our holiday festivities yesterday we got started on the topic of the “resting bitch face” and how at some point in our lives, we’ve all had that moment of being told to smile when we didn’t feel like it. The women at the table were especially sensitive to these encounters, believing them to be somewhat sexist in nature. My son-in-law quickly pointed out that it happens to men as well, and he was tired of people asking him “what’s wrong” because he usually has a serious look on his face.
So how do we “smile” during those tough moments. Do we pretend to be happy when we are not? I do not believe that is what he is suggesting in his quote above. Rather, I believe he is reminding us that we are not defined by the circumstances that happen in our lives. At the core of our beings, we are radiant and beautiful, and peace can always be found within us.
I chose to post this picture of myself because I was going through a really tough time when it was taken, having experienced the recent death of my brother, my daughter’s illness, and the deterioration of my marriage. I smiled not because I was happy about those circumstances, but because I was able to find a glimpse of peace in that particular moment.