How many times have we heard the sentiment that our trials make us stronger? How many times are we told to look on the bright side when things go wrong? Often we may hear this from well-meaning people who seem to be living on the sunny-side and don’t have a clue about the hardships we face. It can be extremely difficult to feel grateful when faced with one problem after another, and even more challenging to try to live up to other people’s expectations that we should rise above it all.
I have found that the truth about coping with hardships is somewhere in between. Eventually we may be able to look back and see how many ways in which the light has made its way through our wounds and made us stronger, more compassionate people. Yet the possibility of future healing doesn’t make the suffering any less real when it is happening, and it is okay to acknowledge those feelings as well. There is a difference between pretending and being authentic, and becoming real can’t happen until we allow ourselves to genuinely express our feelings. That is why we often feel so much better after crying. The shedding of tears may be the only thing left to do in a particular moment, as we attempt to discern when to let go and when it is time to move in a new direction.
So I leave you with this video from Free to Be Me, which my girls used to love listening to when they were younger, and even sometimes now.